Willow Wants To Know…Are YOU a Bad Mommy?

In about a month, I’ll be featuring a review of Bad Mommy by Willow Yamauchi on my site. In the meantime, Willow wants to let you know about her own Bad Mommy revelation and encourage you to embrace your own inner badness:

I have a confession. I am a Bad Mommy. It’s OK, I’m good with it, it works for me, and it can work for you too. Claiming and owning your identity as a Bad Mommy is nothing short of liberating. We have all been fooled, you see. That Good Mommy thing – it’s a figment of our shared imagination. That “I love being a mommy more than anything” thing – a collective fantasy. In my 15 years of parenting I have slowly come to the realization that it’s all a conspiracy. There is no such thing as Good Mommy. This is the truth, and the truth shall set each of us free.

mom and babyThis epiphany first came to me when my daughter was a baby. Despite adhering to all the rules and regulations of the Mommy Mafia, things were not well. I know you know what I am talking about. She didn’t sleep, really…ever. The breastfeeding was a freaking nightmare. I was fat, I was miserable, all my friends abandoned me, and I was alone with my squalling infant and my shame. When I turned to other Mommies for solace, I was met with a strong wall of denial. Oh no! No one else was suffering, everything else was great for everyone else but me. It must be me. It must only be me, it was my fault.

In desperation I went to my grandmother for advice. She let me in on a little secret that I am now sharing with you. It’s all a lie. That’s right, all of it. The whole Good Mommy thing. The Mommies are lying to themselves, and the Mommies are lying to each other. Everyone is in denial, yet deep down, everyone knows the truth – that they are failing at being the Good Mommy they think they have to be (and can be) and that everyone else is making it work. That’s what the denial is all about: it’s the shame of failure.

And let me be clear, just because it’s right and normative and all that stuff to be a Bad Mommy that doesn’t give you a hall pass to be a b**ch. You still have to try your bloody hardest every day. You still have to suck it up and be a big girl every last day. You still have to take the last piece of cake, and fold that last piece of laundry. Understanding that you are a Bad Mommy does not give one license to abuse, rather it explains what is actually happening. We are trying, and we are failing. Collectively. So stand up sister, say it, say it with me, “I am a Bad Mommy, and I am proud.”

bad mommy coverWillow Yamauchi is a Vancouver-based author, freelance broadcaster, blogger, cheese lover and Bad Mommy to two terrific kids. Her book Bad Mommy, published by Insomniac Press, celebrates the parental line somewhere between June Cleaver and Joan Crawford. In Bad Mommy, Willow interviews 22 real women who confess their maternal shortcomings and together embrace the reality of parenting. Bad Mommy is a call to maternal subversion.

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Paid Professional Translation or Free Online Translators-Which is Right for You?

When my stepdaughter came to live with us, she had a real challenge entering the English school system and for the first few months her teacher translated her exams online using free programs. Because such programs translate very literally, using them often results in nonsense phrases and really isn’t an effective way to translate a test paper.

dictionaryIt can be hard sometimes to decide whether you should pay for professional translation or whether you can make do with a free online program. As a general rule, exams, legal documents and business paperwork should be translated by a professional. Conversations, short phrases and single words can be translated by a free online translating program.

The important thing to remember is that no free program is going to be able to accurately translate an entire document, essay or website page because a computer program doesn’t have the ability to use the context of surrounding words to determine a word’s meaning. So if you’re looking for Spanish translation for your website to make it more accessible to your readers or you want your blog campaign proposal translated to French to present to a Quebec-based company, you should be shelling out the cash for a proper translation.

Exams are just one of the instances in which proper translation has been important for our family. When my husband has any formal communication with businesses in Quebec, the paperwork is inevitably prepared in English and the translation to French has to be absolutely perfect. When I’m just chatting with his French family members, informal translation is fine.

A professional translation service may not be something that everyone needs, but living in Canada means that the chances are good those of us who aren’t bilingual will need something translated at some point! However, there’s no need to pay out a bunch of money right away. First think about why you need the translation and how accurate you need it to be and then make your decision. No matter what method is best for your needs, there are many great translation options available!
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Anna’s Budget Tips-Save Money with a Weekly Meal Plan

Food generally makes up a large chunk of the household budget, so it is a good target when looking to save money. I have found that I am able to feed my family for a lot less when I create a weekly meal plan.

fresh saladWhen I know what I’m going to be making for dinner it is so much easier for me to get something healthy on the table at a reasonable hour. Takeout is far less tempting and I avoid a rushed trip to the grocery store at its busiest time of day with a young, tired and hungry child in tow.

There is no one “right way” to make a meal plan – some people find once a month is easier than once a week, some find it’s helpful to do a lot of the prep for weekday dinners on the weekend, but I will tell you what I have found (through much trial and lots of error!) works best for me.

At some point during the weekend I sit down and make a list of four to five dinners to have during the week from Sunday to Saturday. This leaves room for a few nights of leftovers or eating out. If I plan seven big dinners inevitably something goes to waste as there will always be a night when we won’t eat at home due to an event, an invitation from a friend or just because we’re all craving pizza.

To make the meal plan, I start by looking in the freezer, fridge and pantry for items we already have and create dishes around as many of them as possible. Then I pull out the binder where I keep all my favorite old recipes and new ones I have clipped from magazines or found online. I might also browse through my unreasonably large cookbook collection for some new things to try.

I feel like I have to mention that this part is really fun for me. I love to cook, test out new recipes and experiment with different ingredients and cuisines. I get way too many cooking magazines and read cookbooks like novels. If this isn’t your thing, there is no reason that your meal plan has to be filled with complicated multi-course dinners. Most online recipe collections have a “quick and easy” section. Seek out meals you can make in a slow cooker with just a few minutes of preparation the morning. Use convenience items from the grocery store such as frozen veggies, side dishes that steam right in the bag they come in, cooked rotisserie chicken, pre-washed lettuce and frozen entrees.

Once I have my list of dinners for the week (which goes up on the fridge) I make the list of ingredients I’ll need to make them (along with what we’ll need for breakfasts, lunches, and snacks) and head to the store. I try to find ingredients that will do double duty so nothing goes to waste. If I know I’ll need half an onion for one dish I’ll plan to toss the rest in the tacos I’m making a few days later. Other good ways to use bits of produce, meats, and cheeses: mix them into scrambled eggs, top a salad with them or make a wrap in a tortilla for lunch.

Each day when I get home from work I know I have a few options of things to cook with all the ingredients ready and waiting for me. I tend not to assign specific meals to each day and instead just choose from the list based on what everyone feels like having and how much time we have. I try to plan a couple of quick meals for crazy days and a few that are more involved for those evenings when I have a little time to breathe.

So – what do you think? Could this work for you? Do you have your own meal plan routine that helps you save time and money? And what’s your favorite thing to cook when you need to get dinner on the table in a hurry?

Anna Platz writes for the popular personal finance blog, Good Cents Savings, which focuses on helping you save money, stick to a budget, and live well on less. She is also the mother of a four year old daughter who is worth every penny!

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Easy Dinosaur Train Picture Frame Craft from Quilting Treasures

Near the end of March I received some fun Dinosaur Train fabric so that I could try some of the crafts from Quilting Treasures for National Craft Month. I loved the fact that the fabric crafts were simple enough for a child (or a crafter of minimal skill like me) to create and still get great results. Since Benjamin is such a big fan of the show, I decided to make him his very own Dinosaur Train Fabric Fun Picture Frame.

Fabric Fun Picture Frame

Materials:

  • One picture mat and backing cardboard (any size)
  • 45512 H Dinosaur Footprints fabric, at least 2 inches larger than mat on all sizes
  • Scissors
  • Double Stick Tape
  • Ribbon or Rickrack for picture Frame hanger
  • Ruler
  • Fabric marker
  • Optional: Buttons, trim

Directions:

Place fabric right side down on table. Center mat in the middle of the fabric and trace around the inside and outside edges. Remove the mat and draw lines 1” around outside edge and 1” inside the mat opening. See Illustration.

picture frame craft illustrationCut fabric on the further outside line. Cut out center along the innermost line. Cut from the inner corners of the opening to the corner of the inside edge of the frame.

Put double sided tape along the outer edges of one side of the frame. Lay fabric right side down on the table. Place the frame with tape right side down, centered over the fabric and opening. Press down.

Put double sided tape along the outside edges of the frame back. Pull the fabric around from the sides, smoothing and then pressing onto tape. Pull top and bottom edges in the same manner.

Put double sided tape on the frame around the inside photo area. Smooth and press fabric on to the tape.

Put double sided tape on the outside edges of the sides and one end of the cardboard back. Leave one end open so that the photo can be inserted.

Trim and embellish as desired. Hang with ribbon or display inside another picture frame.

This craft really was quick and easy and it would have worked great with a simple wooden or cardboard frame but since I had an old picture frame around anyways, I decided to give it new life by turning it into a funky fabric frame for Benjamin. The double-sided tape made the process quick and easy and I really liked the fact that it was a no-sew craft.

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It was so simple to wrap the fabric around the frame and secure it to the tape!

When the picture frame was complete, I placed the glass back into the frame and Curtis printed off a picture of Buddy and his friends to go into it. The finished picture looked so cute and I knew Benjamin would be excited to wake up and see it on his wall. The creation of the frame from start to finish took only about twenty minutes and the result was adorable!

finished dinosaur train fabric fun picture frame

Twenty minutes after picking up the scissors, the picture frame is done!

Quilting Treasures has some other great crafts that you can create to turn your child’s room into a Dinosuar Train hangout so check them out for yourself! Choose from a lampshade, book covers, a bulletin board or even a Dinosaur Train quilt! These fabrics are only available for a limited time so don’t miss out on the chance to give your favourite little paleontologist’s room a Dinosaur Train makeover!
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First Year of Coca-Cola’s Arctic Home Campaign Raises More Than Two Million Dollars

coca-cola white holiday canIn October of last year, I shared the news about the Artic Home campaign: Coca-Cola’s commitment to the World Wildlife Foundation to donate two million dollars over the next five years and match donations made on iCoke.ca to help preserve the Arctic and protect the habitat of Canada’s polar bears.

Now, after the close of the first year of Arctic Home, over $2 million has been donated to WWF! This includes the $1.8 million raised by fans and Coca-Cola from the campaign as well as the $400,000 first year instalment from Coca-Cola’s five-year pledge. With a goal of raising ten million dollars over the next five years, the WWF is well on its way to meeting its goal thanks to customers like you!

I think the amount of money raised is just incredible, so let’s keep that support coming and let’s ensure that one of the most beautiful and valuable habitats on earth is preserved for future generations. The Arctic ecosystem needs our help and support. Visit the WWF website and learn how you can help protect the home of the polar bears!

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Thirteen Easy Ways to Get Your Family to Go Green

With Earth Day just behind us, there’s no better time to sit down with your family and pop in the Discovery Channel’s breathtaking documentary Planet Earth. It follows fascinating, breathtaking and intimate views of animals and the natural beauty that our earth has to offer. While watching is probably the best part, these documentaries should also motivate you to do your part to help the planet and save some money. From free and simple ways to save some energy to making larger investments to go green in the long run, getting your family to go green is easy to do.

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Free and Simple Ways to Go Green

There are many things you can do to reduce your impact on the environment that don’t cost a dime.

  1. One of the simplest ways to help the environment is to simply turn off the water when you’re not using it. According to The Daily Green, you can save up to 8 gallons of water per day just by turning off the water while brushing your teeth in the morning and at night.
  2. On a similar vein, teach your kids the habit of turning off all unused lights and electronics and yes, that means chargers. Chargers that are plugged in and not used still consume power, known as “vampire power:” if it’s warm, then it’s using power. As much as your kids may love Twilight, vampire power eats up your money, about $3 million of it per year across the country.
  3. Save paper! Print on both sides of paper or print homework and other household items on recycled scrap paper. It’s an easy and free way to reuse and recycle.
  4. Minimize your waste with recycling and composting. Teach your kids to use products to the end of the tube and buy products that use minimal and sustainable packaging. Then set up color-coded bins in your laundry room to separate glass, cardboard and plastic and when the bins are full, reward your kids with a special treat. And compost your food scraps, which can then be turned into fertilizer for your garden.
  5. The production of meat uses tons of water, grains and fuel: the animals have to be fed, watered, processed, packaged and transported. A simple way to help the planet is to go vegetarian. If you’re not ready to give up meat totally, your family should consider adopting Meatless Mondays to cut out meat one day at week. Make a weekly trip with your kids to the local farmer’s market for locally grown produce and try out some of these vegetarian dinner dishes from Meatless Monday.
  6. Directly help the environment and bond with your family by signing up for a local beach or roadside clean-up. It’s a great way to get your kids outside and teach them about giving back.
  7. Participate in Earth Hour as a family. It’s an hour once a year (March 30, 2013), where people across the globe pledge to turn off all of their lights and power for an hour to do something positive for the environment.

Low-Cost Options to Be More Eco-Friendly

For just a little output, you can save even more green.

  1. One of the biggest wastes are plastic grocery bags. In fact, it takes 12 million barrels of oil to produce the amount of plastic bags we use each year. You can easily pick up cloth bags at any grocery store, Chico Bag or Etsy.com
  2. Change your household light bulbs from standard light bulbs to CFL light bulbs, which can last 10 times longer than standard light bulbs and are 50% to 80% more efficient.
  3. Buy and install a low-flow showerhead, which can inject air into the water being let out so it feels like the same water pressure but actually uses significantly less. You can find these at your local hardware store.

Long-Term Investments to Save Even More

These are going to cost you more upfront, but over the course of a couple of years you’ll be saving a significant amount of energy and money.

  1. Did you know that most errand trips and work commutes are less than 12 miles? Do you really need to rev up the SUV for that one? You could supplement your full-size car with a low-speed electric vehicle and save up to 44 cents per mile. Gas prices are rising every year and cutting your use of gas will reduce your monthly spending and carbon emissions. For short trips around the city, picking up the kids from school, running errands and commuting to and from work, a low-speed electric vehicle can be super convenient.
  2. Install solar panels on your house to heat your hot water. Many states and provinces offer tax breaks and rebates if you purchase solar panels to power parts of your home. It’s a big investment up front — range is typically $4,000-$10,000 depending on how many you install — but in the long run you can save as much as 50-90% of your current electric bill.
  3. You can make a smaller investment with solar power with a Solio solar charger to power your small electronics on the go. These will cost you about $70 but can power everything from your smartphone and camera to your GPS and rechargeable batteries.

So break out that popcorn, organize a family movie night and get inspired to do your part to help the earth. What are some other ways that you and your family can go green?

This post was contributed by Aubrey Siegel, a self-proclaimed energy-saving maven. She’s constantly looking for new ways to help save energy and money around her apartment. In addition to being as green as possible, she’s also a writer for 352 Media Group.

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Support Team Canada at the 2012 Olympics by Joining the Pampers #OCanadaBaby Anthem

The 2012 Olympic Games in London is quickly approaching and to help cheer on Team Canada, Pampers has teamed up with Olympic Bronze Medalist and new mom Priscilla Lopes-Schliep to create the very first version of the Canadian national anthem performed entirely by babies, O Canada, Baby! My youngest son Benjamin contributed a few clips and I was so excited to see that he had been featured right at the beginning, singing his heart out in his cute Team Canada gear! Check out the video; it’s pretty adorable.

If you want your baby to be included in this special video project, it’s easy to be a part of the fun! Just take some video clips of your baby singing, laughing, crying or even just making funny noises, and then upload your video to www.facebook.com/PampersCanada. The clips will all be compiled into a one-of-a-kind montage of babies “singing” the national anthem! Check out the Pampers Canada Facebook page to get all the details. And don’t forget to follow the #OCanadaBaby hashtag on Twitter too for all the latest updates on the project!

Clips of the anthem will be featured on the Facebook page and at special events across Canada on July 1, 2012. The final O Canada, Baby! anthem will be released during the Olympic games to cheer on Team Canada. This is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to let your little star show their support for Canadian athletes at the 2012 Olympics in London. Don’t miss out!

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Tough Love or Blog Bullying…You Decide!

There has been a disturbing trend in the blogosphere recently and after mulling over it for the last few days, I’ve decided to speak out about it. I’ve seen similar behaviour in forums and on blogs in the past but in the last few weeks, it seems that there have been even more articles, Tweets and conversations that are just downright cruel to other bloggers. And why?

Well, believe it or not, some bloggers haven’t been interacting online long enough to know what is and isn’t deemed “good form” in the wild world of social media.

wheat and sunsetThese posts, comments and conversations aren’t necessarily meant to be cruel. On the contrary, I think in some way they are meant to be informative and inspiring. But honestly, is the blogosphere really so horrible at expressing itself that the only way we can inspire is to toss out generalized insults or to call newbie bloggers horrible names?

The tough love tactic isn’t a new one; it’s as old as human nature itself. The problem is that it very often has the exact opposite effect. Instead of lighting a fire of inspiration, it digs a pit of despair. And the people that a well-meaning blogger intended to help may just end up throwing in the towel instead. It’s easy to say that if anyone is willing to give up so easily, they probably weren’t meant to be doing this in the first place. It’s even true to a point. But does that really ever make such depreciation right?

Why can’t the same messages be sent with compassion? Why can’t the same lessons be taught with a desire to truly help another individual instead of a desire to make what you write “sensational?” We put on a good show of pretending that we’ve come a long way as a civilization, but the sad truth is that women are still notoriously unappreciated and undervalued in our society. Many women suffer from horrible self-esteem issues as a result. So why are we compounding that problem by attacking other women under the guise of “helping” them?

If you’re one of the new bloggers that’s stumbled across one of these blog posts and you’re now doubting yourself as a result…don’t! Do what you need to do and learn as you go! If you mess up along the way, you’ll fit right in with everyone else that has ever started a blog. Ever. But if you keep going, eventually you’ll figure out what you want to do with your blog and why, and that’s all that’s really important.

And if you’re one of the bloggers that thinks cruelty will help women learn to be better bloggers, I’m not going to try to convince you otherwise but I sure won’t be sharing your post. There’s enough negativity in the world and on the Internet already. If I can be sure that what I write was discouraging to nobody and maybe, if I’m lucky, encouraging to one, that’s all I ask. I’ll save the sensationalism for the people and the posts that deserve it. My fellow bloggers do not.

What do you think? Is there any redeeming feature of a cruel post with good intentions, or is it just blog bullying?

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